I was warned: Don’t go there

We don’t have a fenced in yard, so we walk our dog around our neighborhood twice a day.  Sometimes our walks will take us into the development next to ours.  Not too long ago, as the dog and I were heading down a familiar street in that other development, we spotted someone walking towards us on the opposite side of the road.  He was walking quickly, and I saw that he had a small tube holstered to his belt.

As we got closer, I recognized him as a neighbor from our development.  We’ve exchanged “hellos” a time or two, but I don’t really know him beyond that.  However, as we passed he stopped us and said something I wasn’t expecting to hear:

“Are you planning on walking down the next street?  I’ve been stopping and telling people the last few weeks…because 3 weeks ago I was walking down there and there’s a house that has a vicious boxer out roaming around.  He bit me, and I don’t want anyone else to get hurt.  I hate that they don’t put him on a leash or try to contain him.”

I told him that we don’t normally walk down that way, but I appreciated the warning.  I then realized why he had pepper spray holstered to his side.  Our dog isn’t aggressive by nature, and I wasn’t sure how he would handle a large dog charging at us with teeth bared.  Even if he stood his ground, I wasn’t looking forward to pulling the two of them apart and then looking for a way to safely exit the situation.  Although it’s been a couple of years since we walked down the road he mentioned, I now have no desire to go that way at all.  It’s best to avoid that situation altogether.

His warning reminded me of another warning, one that King Solomon gave to his sons about the influence of the paths we choose.  To help his sons remember his warning, Solomon told them this story:

Proverbs 7:6-23
At the window of my house I looked through my lattice.
I saw among the inexperienced, I noticed among the youths, a young man lacking sense.
Crossing the street near her corner, he strolled down the road to her house at twilight,
in the evening, in the dark of the night.

A woman came to meet him dressed like a prostitute, having a hidden agenda.
She is loud and defiant; her feet do not stay at home.
Now in the street, now in the squares, she lurks at every corner.
She grabs him and kisses him; she brazenly says to him,

“I’ve made fellowship offerings; today I’ve fulfilled my vows.
So I came out to meet you, to search for you, and I’ve found you.
I’ve spread coverings on my bed – richly colored linen from Egypt.
I’ve perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
Come, let’s drink deeply of lovemaking until morning.  Let’s feast on each other’s love!
My husband isn’t home; he went on a long journey.
He took a bag of silver with him and will come home at the time of the full moon.”

She seduces him with her persistent pleading; she lures with her flattering talk.
He follows her impulsively like an ox going to the slaughter,
like a deer bounding toward a trap until an arrow pierces its liver,
like a bird darting into a snare – he doesn’t know it will cost him his life.

Solomon followed his story with this warning:

Proverbs 7:24-25
Now, sons, listen to me, and pay attention to the words from my mouth.
Don’t let your heart turn aside to her ways; don’t stray onto her paths.

The young man’s downfall began…because of the path he chose.  His actions weren’t accidental.  He specifically crossed the street near her corner before strolling down the road to her house.  He even knew the best time of day to just “be in the neighborhood”.  Solomon’s warning is clear: Don’t stray onto her paths!

Solomon’s advice is just as practical today as it was for his sons.  Recent workplace statistics, presented by Forbes, found that 40% of workplace romances involve cheating on an existing partner and 50% of respondents admitted to flirting with their coworkers.  We must recognize the paths we walk and the repercussions of the choices we make.  Actively safeguard your marriage.  Don’t respond to so-called “innocent” flirtatious advances and don’t give off any signals of your own.  Do not seek a listening ear from your opposite-gender colleagues when you’re at odds with your partner.  Many workplace romances begin due to comfortability and familiarity…but if you’re already taken, you need to be wary of becoming “too comfortable” or “too familiar” with the people you spend large portions of your day with. 

The consequences of this path are going to be deadly – to you, your relationships, your integrity, your reputation, your career, and your future. 

I’m warning you – Don’t go there.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

Talking with outsiders

No one likes a “know-it-all”.  Generally speaking, people do not mind if someone else has more knowledge, but the way a person handles themselves in light of that additional knowledge can make or break relationships.  Whether it’s among strangers or siblings, classmates or co-workers, no one appreciates being talked down to.  The subject matter could be of small consequence or something really important, but how something is communicated is as important as what is being communicated.

For those of us that have been following Christ for a length of time, there is a tendency toward smugness that will cause problems.  When we get comfortable going through the motions of living the “Christian life” instead of focusing on our relationship with God, we grow stale.  Our mindset and interactions with others will twist until we end up presenting a conceited, self-righteous version of Christianity.

A telling symptom of this stale-ness is found in how we interact with those outside of our Christian family.  What is our general attitude toward non-Christians?  While we know that they need Jesus, do our actions and attitudes invite them toward Jesus or push them away?  Do we speak at them with a lot of Christian-ese?  Do we belittle them because of their sin?

After spending most of his letter describing the wondrous relationship we now have with God and praising the Colossian believers for their great love for everyone in God’s family, Paul took a moment to give them a warning:

Colossians 4:5-6
Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the time.  Your speech should always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.

Those outside the faith need our wisdom and our gracious speech, not arrogant attitudes and put-down talk.  Being “better off” doesn’t make us “more important”.  In fact, many of the Bible’s authors gave warning against such self-righteous thinking.

Instead, gracious speech comes from a grateful mindset.  That’s why Paul has spent so much time writing about the greatness of Christ and the priority He should have in our lives.  When we have our relationship with God in its proper place, then our interactions with outsiders will begin to look and sound a lot like Jesus’ interactions with others.

Looking and sounding like Jesus will draw a lot of attention, people will take notice of the difference.  In order to be ready to answer each person, we should take the same attitude Daniel had when God told him the meaning of the king’s dream:

Daniel 2:30
As for me, this mystery has been revealed to me, not because I have more wisdom than anyone living, but in order that the interpretation might be made known to the king, and that you may understand the thoughts of your mind.

Can you hear his humility?  Can you see how Daniel shifted the focus from himself and gave the credit to God?  When we have the opportunity to share the gospel with others, we should have the same attitude:

I’m not a Christian because I’m better than anyone else.  One day, someone told me that God loves me enough to die for my sins.  He loves you, too.  I’m just glad that I get to be the one to tell you about it.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

Recognizing cultural trends

My younger son and I went to a movie recently.  While we sat there waiting for the show, we were inundated with what seemed like a never-ending barrage of previews.  Trailer after trailer did its best to convince us that their show was the next movie we should be anticipating.  I don’t remember how many previews we saw – I wouldn’t be surprised if we hit double-digits – but I noticed a common thread among almost all of them:

Nearly every movie preview was about a person finding out they were part of a larger, hidden story.  And this hidden story was something they had always suspected, but finding out it was real still turned their world upside-down.

Whether the plot line contained science-fiction, horror elements, super powers, magic, or whatever…it was all different wrapping for the same idea: There is something greater than you going on, and you have a vital part to play in it.  Movies and entertainment have long been a mirror of inner thoughts and desires, and this theme of a great, adventurous story is resonating with many people. 

Being aware of the culture tendencies around us can show us ways to reach others with the good news about Jesus and the resurrection.  Take a look at the cultural theme Paul noticed when he was Athens:

Acts 17:16-23
While Paul was waiting for them in Athens, his spirit was troubled within him when he saw that the city was full of idols.  So he reasoned in the synagogue with the Jews and with those who worshipped God, and in the marketplace every day with those who happened to be there.  Then also, some of the Epicurean and Stoic philosophers argued with him.  Some said, “What is the pseudo-intellectual trying to say?”

Others replied, “He seems to be a preacher of foreign deities” – because he was telling the good news about Jesus and the resurrection

They took him and brought him to the Areopagus, and said, “May we learn about this new teaching you’re speaking of? For what you say sounds strange to us, and we want to know what these ideas mean.” Now all the Athenians and the foreigners residing there spent their time on nothing else but telling or hearing something new.

Then Paul stood in the middle of the Areopagus and said: “Men of Athens!  I see that you are extremely religious in every respect.  For as I was passing through and observing the objects of your worship, I even found an altar on which was inscribed: TO AN UNKNOWN GOD.  Therefore, what you worship in ignorance, this I proclaim to you.”

From there, Paul went on to tell them about God’s plan for relationship with all of humanity.  During his speech he even quoted one of the Greek’s philosophers, saying that on at least one point, their philosophers got something right. 

Even though Paul was internally troubled by the idolatry in Athens, he didn’t blast them out of his frustration.  Instead, Paul met them where they were with the gospel and let them decide what to do with it.

Many years later, Paul wrote some instructions to the believers in Colossae:

Colossians 4:5-6
Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the time.  Your speech should always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.

The kind of wisdom Paul wants them to use is the same kind he did with the Athenians and that God does with us.  There were elements of truth in the culture around them, and the Colossian believers could use these touch-points to know how they should answer each person.

Our current culture is resonating with the idea that there is a larger story going on, and that they could have an important part in that story.  The thing is, they’re right.  They’re even more right than they know.  We just need to recognize these cultural trends and meet others where they are, with the good news of Jesus and the resurrection.

Keep Pressing,
Ken